It’s been 10 years since we said our I Do’s and it has
been a wonderful ride. But before we walked down the aisle, my husband and I
attended weekly marriage counseling with our pastor. I know what you are
thinking – how dreadful! But to be honest, it was one of the best things we did
as a couple. So many people get so caught up in the wedding planning, that they
forget to discuss the important facts of starting a life together.
implement in our marriage:
roles of each other in the marriage. For example, my husband hates to sweep and
said he never wants to do that chore. I on the other hand refuse to take out
the trash or change a light bulb. So when I ask him to take out the trash and
he jokingly says, “You can’t do it?” Nope, you knew this before you married me!
to sit and write out a budget together. It forces you to see each other’s
spending habits, bills, priorities and saving plans. We also decided on an
amount of money each of us can spend before calling and asking the other one if
it is ok to make a purchase. This helps with sticker shock and to double check
to make sure the funds are in the bank.
holidays. Not just the traditions for the two of us, but how we would divide
our time between our parents. Most married couples fight about this, so having
discussed and set up plan before the wedding will help avoid conflict later on.
roses. But I remember one session that we had to look each other in the eye and
say what we didn’t like about each other. They basically forced us to fight!
But it was actually good to let each other know what we didn’t like and what
things we were willing to change. Better let it all before the wedding,
especially if it’s something that could possibly be a deal breaker.
family time. We both agreed to eating dinner every night at the table without
the television being on. We both grew up that way and believe it’s important to
carry that into our marriage. Decided to have monthly family meetings to
discuss what plans/goals we have for the week, month and year. Time gets away
from us all and this helps us come together and see what needs to be done as a