Once you become a parent you tend to focus less on your spouse and more on your children. No longer do you have privacy, spontaneous date nights or even much time for deep conversation. It takes a bit more effort to make sure we are meeting the needs of each other and not neglecting them.
My husband and I strive to have a strong marriage, one that our son can look at and see that we genuinely love and care for one another. Of course we aren’t perfect, but we know that we are in this together and learn as we go.
Here are a few things that help us keep our marriage alive in this time with a crazy toddler:
Dinner Time – We eat dinner at the table every single night. The television is off and we do not answer the phone. It’s a chance for us all to talk about our day or what is on our mind and just unwind without any distractions.
Love Notes – Leave each other post it notes with a sweet little comment. It’s nice to wake up in the morning to find a love note or an inside joke to get your day started.
Kiss & Hug – Not just a quick goodbye kiss, but a sweet hug and kiss just because.Those random kisses in the kitchen while cooking dinner still gives me butterfly’s.
Date each other – Sure it can be hard to get away from the kids, but it’s definitely needed to recharge your batteries. Go for a walk or dinner together and not talk about the kids! We often sit out on our patio after Carson goes to bed and just hold hands and enjoy being just the two of us.
Gifts – Picking up a little gift for each other just so they know you think about them. It can be flowers, a candy bar, a magazine, etc. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but a thoughtful gift goes a long way.
What do you to keep your marriage going?